Bibliography

Ellen B. Flaum, LCSW – (561) 968-1505

Bibliography

Below is a bibliography of recommended readings on selected topics. You can click here to download a PDF file of this page.

PARTNERS OF SEX ADDICTS
FACING HEARTBREAK:  by Stephanie Carnes, Mari Lee, and Anthony Rodriguez
MENDING A SHATTERED HEART: A guide for partners of sex addicts Gentle Path Press
ALLIES IN HEALING: When the person you love was sexually abused as a child by Laura Davis
THE BETRAYAL BOND: Breaking free of exploitive relationships by Patrick Carnes
AFTER THE AFFAIR: Healing the pain and rebuilding trust when a partner has been unfaithful by Janis Abrahms Spring
YOUR SEXUALLLY ADDICTED SPOUSE: How partners can cope and heal by Barbara Steffens and Marsha Means
INTIMATE TREASON: Healing the trauma for partners confronting sex addiction by Claudia Black and Cara Tripodi
DECEIVED: Facing Sexual betrayal, Lies and Secrets by Claudia Black

HEALTHY SEX AND RELATIONSHIP BOOKS
PASSIONATE MARRIAGE: Sex, love and intimacy in emotionally committed relationships by David Schnarch
THE ELUSIVE ORGASM: Igniting hot, healthy sex while in recovery from sex addiction by Alexandra Katehakis
MATING IN CAPTIVITY: Unlocking erotic intelligence by Esther Perel
HOLD ME TIGHT: Seven conversations for a lifetime of love by Sue Johnson
THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES: The secret to love that lasts by Gary Chapman

HEALTHY BOUNDARIES
BOUNDARIES WHERE YOU END AND I BEGIN by Anne Katherine
BOUNDARIES IN MARRIAGE by Henry Cloud and John Townsend
BOUNDARIES IN MARRIAGE WORKBOOK by Henry Cloud and John Townsend
BEYOND CODEPENDENCY: And getting better all the time by Melody Beattie
FACING CODEPENDENCY: What it is, where it comes from, and how it sabotages our lives by Pia Mellody

TRAUMA IN RELATIONSHIPS
THE WIZARD OF OZ AND OTHER NARCISSTS by Eleanor Payson
WAKING THE TIGER: HEALING TRAUMA: The innate capacity to transform overwhelming experiences by Peter A. Levine
STOP WALKING ON EGGSHELLS: Taking your life back when someone you care about has borderline personality disorder by Pal Mason and Randi Kreger
YOU DON’T HAVE TO TAKE IT ANYMORE: Turn your resentful, angry or emotionally abusive relationship into a compassionate loving one by Steven Stosny
AFTER THE AFFAIR: Healing the pain and rebuilding trust when a partner has been unfaithful by Janis Abrahms Spring
HOW CAN I FORGIVE YOU? The courage to forgive, the freedom not to by Janis Abrahms Spring

DEPRESSION AND SHAME
I DON’T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT; Overcoming the secret legacy of male depression by Terrence Real
SILENTLY SEDUCED: When parents make their children partners by Kenneth Adams
THE BETRAYAL BOND: Breaking free of exploitive relationships by Patrick Carnes
HEALING THE SHAME THAT BINDS YOU by John Bradshaw

ADDICTION TO SEX FOR MEN
DON’T CALL IT LOVE: Recovery from sexual addiction by Patrick Carnes
OUT OF THE SHADOWS: Understanding sexual addiction by Patrick Carnes
FACING THE SHADOW: starting sexual and relationship recovery by Patrick Carnes
CRUISE CONTROL: Understanding sex addiction in gay men by Robert Weiss
UNTANGLING THE WEB: Sex, porn and fantasy obsession in the internet age by Weiss and Schneider

ADDICTION TO SEX FOR WOMEN
READY TO HEAL: SECOND EDITION by Kelly McDaniel
LUST, ANGER, LOVE: Understanding sexual addiction and the road to healthy intimacy by Maureen Canning
WOMEN, SEX, AND ADDICITON: A search for love and power by Charlotte Kasl

ADDICTION TO LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS
ADDICTION TO LOVE: Overcoming obsession and dependency in relationships by Susan Peabody
FACING LOVE ADDICTION: Giving yourself the power to change the way you love  by Pia Mellody, Andrea Wells Miller, J. Keith Miller
THE NEW CODEPENDENCY: Help and Guidance for today’s generation by Melody Beattie

SEXUAL ABUSE
THE SEXUAL HEALING JOURNEY: A guide for survivors of sexual abuse (revised) by Wendy Maltz
THE COURAGE TO HEAL WORKBOOK: A guide for women and men survivors of child sexual abuse  by Laura Davis
WHEN I SAY NO, I FEEL GUILTY by Manual J. Smith
VICTIMS NO LONGER: The classic guide for men recovering from sexual child abuse  by Mike Lew

ATTENTION DEFICIT AND AUTISM SPECTRUM
DRIVEN TO DISTRACTION: Recognizing and coping with A.D.D. by Edward Hallowell and John Ratey
IS IT YOU, ME OR ADULT A.D.D.? Stopping the roller coaster by Gina Pera
WOMEN WITH ATTENTION DEFICIT DISORDER by Sari Solden
THE JOURNAL OF BEST PRACTICES: A memoir of marriage, Asperger syndrome and one man’s quest to be a better husband by David Finch
ALONE TOGETHER: Making an Asperger Marriage Work

 
ADULT ADOPTEES
TWICE BORN: Memoirs of an adopted daughter by Betty Jean Lifton
CHASING AWAY THE SHADOWS: An adoptee’s journey to motherhood  by Zara Phillips
BEING ADOPTED: The lifelong search for self by David Brodzinsky, Marshall Schechter and Robin Marantz Henig
JOURNEY OF THE ADOPTED SELF: A quest for wholeness by Betty Jean Lifton
THE PRIMAL WOUND: Understanding the adopted child by Nancy Newton Verrier
COMING HOME TO SELF by Nancy Newton Verrier
BIRTH BOND REUNIONS BETWEEN BIRTHPARENTS AND ADOPTEES: What happens after by Judith Gediman and Linda Brown
ADOPTION HEALING…A path to recovery by Joe Soll
BIRTHRIGHT: The guide to search and reunion for adoptees, birthparents and adoptive parents  by Jean Strauss

ADOPTIVE PARENTS AND POTENTIAL ADOPTIVE PARENTS
CONQUERING INFERTILITY by Alice Domar
BEING ADOPTED: The lifelong search for self by David Brodzinsky, Marshall Schechter and Robin Marantz Henig
20 THING ADOPTIVE PARENTS NEED TO SUCCEED BY Sherrie Eldridge
GREAT ANSWERS TO DIFFICULT QUESTIONS ABOUT ADOPTION by Fanny Cohen Herlem
DEAR BIRTHMOTHER by Kathleen Silber and Phylis Speedlin
LOST & FOUND: The adoption experience by Betty Jean Lifton
BENEATH THE MASK: Understanding adopted teens by Debbie Riley with John Meeks
TWENTY THINGS ADOPTED KIDS WISH THEIR ADOPTIVE PARENTS KNEW by Sherrie Eldridge

BIRTHMOTHERS
SOUL CONNECTION: A memoir of a birthmothers healing journey by Ann Hughes
ADOPTION HEALING: A path to recovery for mothers who lost children to adoption by Joe Soll and Karen Wilson Buterbaugh
THE SAME SMILE: The triumph of a mother’s love after losing two daughters by Susan Mello Souza
BIRTHRIGHT: The guide to search and reunion for adoptees, birthparents and adoptive parents by Jean Strauss